That was a great read!
If your BPD Waif cannot get you to rescue them by acting helpless/hopeless and pitiful, he/she will shut you out or rage at you. They're frustrated when their "poor me" tactics fail to get them what they want--and that's when you get lambasted for being a "bad" lover, son/daughter, therapist, etc. The waif mother persistently controls her children in this way. If they don't respond to her victim/martyr act, there's literally hell to pay. The rejection, shame and guilt they're forced to endure, isn't worth failing to respond to her demands.
The Waif deflects your efforts to guide her/him toward more productive or effective solutions with "yah-buts"--or keeps shifting the topic, which is exasperating.




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that could go on forever...
They took over Coconut's fan fic thread and the regular chit chat thread was full of it.






