Harlette - I will jump in. I spent over 8 years in singles wards, also my husband was a missionary and has given his input too.
For those wondering:
1. The missionaries always explain the law of chastity. This is especially true if the individual has already been sexually active and/or is living with a member of the opposite sex that is not their wedded spouse or family member (I almost wrote and/or - ewwwwww).
2. When explaining it, they would have stated that "no sexual activity is permitted outside marriage" if they felt further clarification was necessary, then they would have. I think that would make it pretty clear that anal and oral are not permitted.
3. When an individual IS living with a member of the opposite sex that they are not related to or married to (AND especially if they have or are having a sexual relationship with said indidividual) they would not be permitted to be baptized until they were either married or had found separate housing. There are not exceptions to this rule unless you go to the first presidency of the church (like the prophet) and get permission - which may only happen if you were caring for a friend who was a quadriplegic or something.
4. Singles wards cover this topic EXTENSIVELY - and considering Jodi was in my ward, yeah, she knew plenty well! Heck, you hear an audible sigh and groan from the congregation any time the topic is chastity. Since it is a common issue for single adults, it is very commonly addresses. And they go into it plenty clearly. To give you an idea: All clothing is to remain on at all times. No necking or passionate kissing. No touching of private areas over or under clothing. No private areas touching together. Etc... Kind of hard to think any of her activities could be construed as a grey area when these are the strict guidelines.
There is no way on earth that she didn't know. And honestly, I don't understand why she is even pretending that. Why not just say, "we both knew it was wrong according to our religion, however, we started down that path and the further we went, the deeper into it we got until we just gave in. Then, we enjoyed it so much we figured we'd continue and someday repent when we choose to move on." I would believe that for sure. It's just a stupid thing to lie about and completely unbelievable!
So there you go...Mormon chastity 101.
