thanks for coming out of hiding to add your input!
that's really all people are asking for... someone who makes an effort to find the available resources upon arrival, or before the crisis moment hits (t-5 seconds to hysterics and counting). i'm sure there are a whole lot of moms like you, otherwise, us non-baby folk would be seeing teh breasteses every time we turn our head! a few rotten apples...
i've seen the look of horror on women's faces when they just can't get the kid to calm down. i know it's hard. you're doing a great job! although - from what everyone says about changing with experience, perhaps you'll also change your tune with your second. i hope not!