He was a 30 yr old successful man whose religion tells him he should have been married with 4 kids by then. I'd be trying to nail down anything that came at me too if I had those type of pressures on me.
I don't think he was abusive either. There's a difference between saying things out of anger a time or two and being abusive. If anything, I think he may have spoke to Jodi in anger and called her nasty names. I've done it. I'd be screwed if they went through my emails and text messages to my guy. I'm an asshole when I'm pissed
Introduce Jodi into the equation, she's so desperate to land someone successful that she'll play with his head no matter the costs to him or those around him. I kinda think she's lucky he didn't snap. I hate clingy fuckers.