Part of me can relate to the mental illness aspect. While I've never ever been close to even thinking about harming my kids, I've battled with depression and PPD/anxiety. When the worst of it occured after I had my youngest, I refused to be alone and made my husband stand with me in the bathroom while I was in the shower. I felt so much better after getting treatment and my husband was by my side the entire time.

I don't think he should be blamed for their deaths, but I do judge him leaving the kids alone with her when she was dealing with alcohol and drug addiction.