The "right" things to post on death threads

[afterbirth]

I don't get what the point of the death threads are. It seems that 99% of the posters don't even know the dead person. So aside from a meaningless obligatory "RIP [insert name here], what's the point? Apparently you are supposed to keep the discussion related to the dead person, but if you don't know them, then that's pointless. Granted, I don't like thread hijacking as much as the next guy, but threads meander from time to time and it can't always be "He was so young and will be missed."

[merdeath]

Of all people to start a thread on this  :lol:

[Gr8Fantasies]

[quote author=afterbirth link=topic=15192.msg932672#msg932672 date=1216231055]
I don't get what the point of the death threads are. It seems that 99% of the posters don't even know the dead person. So aside from a meaningless obligatory "RIP [insert name here], what's the point? Apparently you are supposed to keep the discussion related to the dead person, but if you don't know them, then that's pointless. Granted, I don't like thread hijacking as much as the next guy, but threads meander from time to time and it can't always be "He was so young and will be missed."
[/quote]

Some threads burn out fast, while others are extremely interesting.
I always try to make posts in the death threads that I would not be ashamed if the families / friends of the decendent were to come upon said thread.

Keep being a dip shit in the article / death threads and receive a ban.

There are plenty of *OFF TOPIC* types of threads for jackassery!

[electricalst0rm]

[quote author=Gr8Fantasies link=topic=15192.msg932683#msg932683 date=1216231525]
Some threads burn out fast, while others are extremely interesting.
I always try to make posts in the death threads that I would not be ashamed if the families / friends of the decendent were to come upon said thread.

Keep being a dip shit in the article / death threads and receive a ban.

There are plenty of *OFF TOPIC* types of threads for jackassery!
[/quote]

What she said.

[merdeath]

[quote author=Gr8Fantasies link=topic=15192.msg932683#msg932683 date=1216231525]
Some threads burn out fast, while others are extremely interesting.
I always try to make posts in the death threads that I would not be ashamed if the families / friends of the decendent were to come upon said thread.

Keep being a dip shit in the article / death threads and receive a ban.

There are plenty of *OFF TOPIC* types of threads for jackassery!
[/quote]

I think Nomad called it douchebaggery!

[merdeath]

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[Gr8Fantasies]

[quote author=missberi link=topic=15192.msg932687#msg932687 date=1216231712]
I think Nomad called it douchebaggery!
[/quote]
Normally, I would say dipshittery.  I already had 'dip shit' in my post though 

[afterbirth]

And that's another thing...As if the death threads, or this site in general, is for the behalf of the bereaved family members. That's just what I would want--a bunch of people that I don't even know commenting on the DEATH of my dead child or brother or father. I'm sorry, but the last thing I'd want to hear when greiving for the loss of a loved one is the "two cents" of a bunch of random, macabre, internet forum posters. And some of the choices of the dead peoples photos makes me think that their family member's best interests are not of the utmost concern.

I am familiar with douchebaggery and jackassery, but I've noticed that people will often point fingers and label others as (especially) TROLLS, or hijackers, or asses...simply because they disagree with you. I'm not here to do any of that, but I have no problem speaking my mind in forums, and I've been banned from a couple forums and even caused a couple others to collapse from the inside out and shutdown (not bragging about that). I pretty much never insulted people either, I just spoke my mind and people attacked me.

[merdeath]

[quote author=afterbirth link=topic=15192.msg932712#msg932712 date=1216233040]
And that's another thing...As if the death threads, or this site in general, is for the behalf of the bereaved family members. That's just what I would want--a bunch of people that I don't even know commenting on the DEATH of my dead child or brother or father. I'm sorry, but the last thing I'd want to hear when greiving for the loss of a loved one is the "two cents" of a bunch of random, macabre, internet forum posters. And some of the choices of the dead peoples photos makes me think that their family member's best interests are not of the utmost concern.

I am familiar with douchebaggery and jackassery, but I've noticed that people will often point fingers and label others as (especially) TROLLS, or hijackers, or asses...simply because they disagree with you. I'm not here to do any of that, but I have no problem speaking my mind in forums, and I've been banned from a couple forums and even caused a couple others to collapse from the inside out and shutdown (not bragging about that). I pretty much never insulted people either, I just spoke my mind and people attacked me.

[/quote]

So then why do you choose & continue to post in these death thread?

[LostSouls]

Honestly some of his statements come off as harsh; however, unless I have missed some post.  I do not see him as being off topic any more than others that state opinions on the article discussion section. 

[turtleande]

Were afterbirth's posts that bad? I mean, no his jokes weren't knee-slappers, but he wasn't being a complete douche, was he?

afterbirth, just keep the jokes and off-topic stuff to non-death threads. we all go off topic in them sometimes and have to be gently nudged. forgive us if we jumped on you. some of us forget that MDS is not our own personal hangout and we can get territorial sometimes.  :-)

[Onthedarkside]

:roll:

[vaga]

[quote author=afterbirth link=topic=15192.msg932712#msg932712 date=1216233040]
And that's another thing...As if the death threads, or this site in general, is for the behalf of the bereaved family members. That's just what I would want--a bunch of people that I don't even know commenting on the DEATH of my dead child or brother or father. I'm sorry, but the last thing I'd want to hear when greiving for the loss of a loved one is the "two cents" of a bunch of random, macabre, internet forum posters. And some of the choices of the dead peoples photos makes me think that their family member's best interests are not of the utmost concern.

I am familiar with douchebaggery and jackassery, but I've noticed that people will often point fingers and label others as (especially) TROLLS, or hijackers, or asses...simply because they disagree with you. I'm not here to do any of that, but I have no problem speaking my mind in forums, and I've been banned from a couple forums and even caused a couple others to collapse from the inside out and shutdown (not bragging about that). I pretty much never insulted people either, I just spoke my mind and people attacked me.
[/quote]
*golf clap*  :roll:

[PCP777]

[quote author=afterbirth link=topic=15192.msg932712#msg932712 date=1216233040]
And that's another thing...As if the death threads, or this site in general, is for the behalf of the bereaved family members. That's just what I would want--a bunch of people that I don't even know commenting on the DEATH of my dead child or brother or father. I'm sorry, but the last thing I'd want to hear when greiving for the loss of a loved one is the "two cents" of a bunch of random, macabre, internet forum posters. And some of the choices of the dead peoples photos makes me think that their family member's best interests are not of the utmost concern.

I am familiar with douchebaggery and jackassery, but I've noticed that people will often point fingers and label others as (especially) TROLLS, or hijackers, or asses...simply because they disagree with you. I'm not here to do any of that, but I have no problem speaking my mind in forums, and I've been banned from a couple forums and even caused a couple others to collapse from the inside out and shutdown (not bragging about that). I pretty much never insulted people either, I just spoke my mind and people attacked me.

[/quote]

The death threads are not for the behalf of bereaved family members, they are there for members to discuss the  deaths. It's public information and we like talking about it. If you don't want to here the "two cents" of  strangers, go somewhere else on the Internet. I have found that many family members end up becoming members as the discussion helps them cope. Regardless, that's not the intent of the site. I think of it as a digital graveyard that we can tour through virtually and discuss.

[Gr8Fantasies]

[quote author=turtlenads link=topic=15192.msg932733#msg932733 date=1216234057]
Were afterbirth's posts that bad? I mean, no his jokes weren't knee-slappers, but he wasn't being a complete douche, was he?

afterbirth, just keep the jokes and off-topic stuff to non-death threads. we all go off topic in them sometimes and have to be gently nudged. forgive us if we jumped on you. some of us forget that MDS is not our own personal hangout and we can get territorial sometimes.  :-)


[/quote]

I haven't read all of his posts
(like I did with another new member  )

I was just answering his question.
Nothing was directly aimed at him as far as the dipshittery comment etc....

When I first joined - I had to be reminded to not go off topic in the death threads also.  I think it happens to the majority of users.

[turtleande]

[quote author=Gr8Fantasies link=topic=15192.msg932754#msg932754 date=1216235066]

I haven't read all of his posts
(like I did with another new member  )

I was just answering his question.
Nothing was directly aimed at him as far as the dipshittery comment etc....

When I first joined - I had to be reminded to not go off topic in the death threads also.  I think it happens to the majority of users.
[/quote]

I wasn't referring to anyone in particular. 
I've gone off topic in death threads before. I've also been harsh to noobs. Not so much anymore, though.

[Gr8Fantasies]

[quote author=turtlenads link=topic=15192.msg932762#msg932762 date=1216235296]
I wasn't referring to anyone in particular. 
I've gone off topic in death threads before. I've also been harsh to noobs. Not so much anymore, though.

[/quote]

lol - I just responded to you in a different thread.

Is he really gone though?

[afterbirth]

Nothing that bad happened, I just got a couple warnings in the last few days. I was mainly rethinking the whole premise of this site, but you guys answered most of my questions. "Digital graveyard", I like that.

As far as the reason I post here...I think I'm like most people. It's a source of grim entertainment, which I actually enjoy. But it's driven only by sheer boredom.

[Gr8Fantasies]

[quote author=afterbirth link=topic=15192.msg932823#msg932823 date=1216237712]
Nothing that bad happened, I just got a couple warnings in the last few days. I was mainly rethinking the whole premise of this site, but you guys answered most of my questions. "Digital graveyard", I like that.

As far as the reason I post here...I think I'm like most people. It's a source of grim entertainment, which I actually enjoy. But it's driven only by sheer boredom.

[/quote]

I'm usually only here while at the office - it helps to pass the time.

Go poke around in some of the off topic threads...like *A thread for random thoughts*.
People will warm up to you eventually.

[trepid]

[quote author=afterbirth link=topic=15192.msg932712#msg932712 date=1216233040]
And that's another thing...As if the death threads, or this site in general, is for the behalf of the bereaved family members. That's just what I would want--a bunch of people that I don't even know commenting on the DEATH of my dead child or brother or father. I'm sorry, but the last thing I'd want to hear when greiving for the loss of a loved one is the "two cents" of a bunch of random, macabre, internet forum posters. And some of the choices of the dead peoples photos makes me think that their family member's best interests are not of the utmost concern.

I am familiar with douchebaggery and jackassery, but I've noticed that people will often point fingers and label others as (especially) TROLLS, or hijackers, or asses...simply because they disagree with you. I'm not here to do any of that, but I have no problem speaking my mind in forums, and I've been banned from a couple forums and even caused a couple others to collapse from the inside out and shutdown (not bragging about that). I pretty much never insulted people either, I just spoke my mind and people attacked me.

[/quote]

I think what afterbirth is trying to say without actually saying it is she is from the village of the banned (pre-dating the village of the banned thread). How do I know? Her reference to trolls above I believe refers to the message you receive from one of the mods when you get banned from this forum. How do I know that?   

[PCP777]

[quote author=afterbirth link=topic=15192.msg932823#msg932823 date=1216237712]
Nothing that bad happened, I just got a couple warnings in the last few days. I was mainly rethinking the whole premise of this site, but you guys answered most of my questions. "Digital graveyard", I like that.

As far as the reason I post here...I think I'm like most people. It's a source of grim entertainment, which I actually enjoy. But it's driven only by sheer boredom.
[/quote]

Yeah when things are slow at work you'll see me on. I hardly ever hit the site outside of work hours. Much more entertaining than myspace etc.

[Gr8Fantasies]

[quote author=trepid link=topic=15192.msg934153#msg934153 date=1216318284]
I think what afterbirth is trying to say without actually saying it is she is from the village of the banned (pre-dating the village of the banned thread). How do I know? Her reference to trolls above I believe refers to the message you receive from one of the mods when you get banned from this forum. How do I know that?   


[/quote]

Isn't 'afterbirth' a he?

So you think that this is someone who had previously been banned and is now back under a new persona?

[trepid]

Slightly suspicious since they seemed to want to put particular emphasis on the word TROLL. I think they are under a new name but not necessarily a new persona, more like they just said something in a comment in the past that someone didn't agree with and got banned because it.

:2thescream:

[Ron_NYC]

[quote author=trepid link=topic=15192.msg934275#msg934275 date=1216323260]
Slightly suspicious since they seemed to want to put particular emphasis on the word TROLL. I think they are under a new name but not necessarily a new persona, more like they just said something in a comment in the past that someone didn't agree with and got banned because it.

:2thescream:
[/quote]
I wouldn't doubt it. And it seems like he's on pace to have it happen again.

[Nomad]

[quote author=PCP777 link=topic=15192.msg934196#msg934196 date=1216319694]
Yeah when things are slow at work you'll see me on. I hardly ever hit the site outside of work hours. Much more entertaining than myspace etc.
[/quote]

I'm usually on all day long, because I have busy periods and slow periods at work.  It relives the monotony of tele-sales.