CEO (Terry Glenn Barclay, 57) Failed to Move Off Tracks, Hit by Train

[TankHill]

'The Blake' CEO identified as victim in fatal train crash in Pensacola

PENSACOLA, Fla. -- The victim in Monday afternoon's fatal train crash in Pensacola has been identified as a 57-year-old man.

Pensacola Police identified the victim Wednesday as Terry Glenn Barclay of Pensacola.

The incident happened around 1:15 p.m. Monday on Scenic Highway at Chimney Park. Police say Barclay was walking along the train tracks and did not react when the train sounded its horn.

No further details were released.

In a Facebook post Wednesday night, The Blake at Pensacola announced the passing of Barclay, who was the CEO of the assisted living facility.

Glenn was a compassionate leader, devoted husband and father, faithful Christian, and dear friend.
Barclay co-founded The Blake, which is on Airport Blvd. in Pensacola.

"Glenn was a brilliant business leader and selfless mentor to the many people who were blessed to work with him," The Blake said in its statement. "He believed there was a better way to care for seniors, and he worked tirelessly to provide each resident with world-class care, exceptional service, and compassion. Our team members, residents, and families deeply mourn his loss."

[Angiebla]

Well thats one way to make sure you unalive yourself successfully.

In all seriousness, the world will miss this guy if he does what they say he does. A lot of people overlook elderly people.

[Boston Babe 73]

One of two things happened. Either he did it on purpose or he had ear buds in playing loud music. It's happened as an accident many times before, although I don't understand why people choose to walk on train tracks for exercise/getting around. I don't understand the allure.

[TankHill]

There?s so much to the story that hasn?t been included in the article.

I knew him quite well at one time.

[Amy1217]

That sounds like a lot to have going on at one time. I can't imagine living a double life in general but for that long? Damn.

[SeanF]

That sounds like a lot to have going on at one time. I can't imagine living a double life in general but for that long? Damn.

Coming here to say I knew this man. I'd only found out about his death two weeks ago after not hearing from him for months. We had a relationship for the past five years. I didn't know he was married. He said he was divorced and had a grown kid. He also told me he was in the military and that he was deployed several times over the course of our relationship which is why there would sometimes be months between conversation. He told me he was being deployed shortly before Thanksgiving 2022. I see now that he went to great lengths to support his lies and I feels so stupid for believing them. I also didn't know him by Terry or Glenn. I knew him as Todd.

[SeanF]

There?s so much to the story that hasn?t been included in the article.

I knew him quite well at one time.

New to this site and not sure how it all works but think I sent you a DM. How did you know "Glenn?" We were romantically involved for the last five years. Not exclusive but still feel like an idiot uncovering all this info about him now and sad he's gone but also mad as hell. I still have some of his things.

[Angiebla]

Sorry for your loss SeanF. Im sure you are feeling a lot of different emotions. I would be mad as hell too if someone lied to me for 5 years.

[SeanF]

Sorry for your loss SeanF. Im sure you are feeling a lot of different emotions. I would be mad as hell too if someone lied to me for 5 years.

Thank you. It's been a confusing few weeks ever since I found out. I don't know how to process it all and I know I need to seek professional help. Not only am I shocked to learn he killed himself I'm shocked to learn he was a completely different person than he tricked me into believing. So much of the past five years is making sense now. He went to great lengths to carry on his lies. For example he had the full army gear that he'd bring over to my house for work the next day, had dog tags made with his fake name on them, would fake phone calls about military stuff that was confidential and would always leave the room or make me leave the room. I understand now but I don't understand why at the same time. I feel so sad. I feel so horrible for his wife and kid and family. I igmaine they were clueless about all of this. I never had trust issues before but now I'm not sure how I can ever trust anyone again.

[Meshuga]

I am not sure how this could be an "accident". He was walking on railroad tracks and got hit by a train...if what Sean is saying is true, he may have been overwhelmed with his secret life and just decided to end it. Or maybe his wife found out somehow?

[Boston Babe 73]

Welcome Sean and I'm so sorry that you're here under these circumstances. You aren't an idiot. By the sounds of it, he went to enormous lengths to hide his double life from everyone involved. It must really hurt to find out this way and to know that you were deceived like that.

I hope that Tank reaches out to you.

[Bewitchingstorm]

I am so very sorry, Sean.

[SeanF]

Thank you everyone. I keep having nightmares about all of it. I decided to take a beach trip to Pensacola this week and have already found another person he also did this to. My head is just spinning. You think this kind of stuff only happens in movies or to other people. That you'd never be dumb enough to get caught up in it and would see the signs.

[Boston Babe 73]

Thank you everyone. I keep having nightmares about all of it. I decided to take a beach trip to Pensacola this week and have already found another person he also did this to. My head is just spinning. You think this kind of stuff only happens in movies or to other people. That you'd never be dumb enough to get caught up in it and would see the signs.

This only further confirms my suspicions that he did this intentionally. By the sounds of it, he had multiple people on the side along with his family and he must have been juggling all of it like crazy. One of them perhaps found out what he was doing and was going to expose him and rather than face the music, he ended it. That's the most likely scenario.

I'm so sorry that you were caught up with him. What he did to you and everyone else is terrible. What a selfish asshole.

[Bewitchingstorm]

His obituary shows he was 55: https://www.roselawn-fh.com/obituaries/Glenn-Barclay

[Boston Babe 73]

His obituary shows he was 55: https://www.roselawn-fh.com/obituaries/Glenn-Barclay

They really made him out as some kind of saviour here. I'm pretty sure they know what was going on because it smacks of overcompensating. I mean, I feel horrible for his family, but he obviously had more to him than being some God fearing Saint that showered his family with candy and flowers.

He obviously wasn't that great of a person to go around using and abusing others to satisfy his own needs. His poor wife and Son were used as a cover and the people he was having relations with were only there for his own entertainment and satisfaction. It's one thing to have a lover on the side because you're closeted due to society being cruel. It's another to have elaborate covers and multiple lovers and lying to everyone.

[TankHill]

Coming here to say I knew this man. I'd only found out about his death two weeks ago after not hearing from him for months. We had a relationship for the past five years. I didn't know he was married. He said he was divorced and had a grown kid. He also told me he was in the military and that he was deployed several times over the course of our relationship which is why there would sometimes be months between conversation. He told me he was being deployed shortly before Thanksgiving 2022. I see now that he went to great lengths to support his lies and I feels so stupid for believing them. I also didn't know him by Terry or Glenn. I knew him as Todd.

Hi Sean. I sent you a PM last week, but if you're anything like me, you rarely check this site or even know when you have a message.

I'm so sorry for what this man put you through and what you must be feeling now that he's dead with all this new information.

Here's my story (it's a long one): I first met him when he was in transition from moving from the Dallas area to Alabama in late May of 2001. He worked out at my tiny gym and that's how we first met in person. However, I'd been talking to him online for about two weeks, but he didn't have a face picture up, just his body, so I didn't know it was the same man that was always offering to spot me at the gym. This was back in the days of AOL chat rooms, by the way. He told me he was in the middle of a divorce and that's why he was moving to the Gulf Shores/Mobile area of Alabama. He did say he had a son that was about 18 months old, whom I eventually met and spent a lot of time with. I had no reason to doubt anything he said because everything seemed to check out and make sense. And I was a naive 21 year old.

Like you, he also gave me a different name. One that I eventually busted him on about three months later because he spent the night at my place, like he often did, and when he left for the day I did laundry and he'd left his license in his jeans. Terry Glenn Barclay? And a DOB of 1967 did not match up with him telling me he was 29. He told me on more than one occasion he had a big 30th birthday trip planned with his college buddies. What is going on here? Anyway, I confronted him when he came back that night and this is where I started to see a whole different side of him. I repeatedly demanded answers and at first he just buried his head in his hands started saying how sorry he was that he could explain. But he wasn't and so I kept asking him who he was and why he lied to me all this time. And that set him off. He started yelling at me as if I was the one to blame. He frightened me so bad with his anger that I threatened to call the cops if he didn't leave. He then threw me against the wall and grabbed me by the throat. Through my tears I said "thirty seconds ago you said you loved me and would never hurt me. Another lie?" and so he let go of me and he immediately started crying himself. After about 20 minutes of this and trying to talk to me through the locked bathroom door, he starts apologizing to me and telling me *MOST* of the truth. He wasn't out and was so afraid of anyone, especially his parents and "soon to be ex-wife" finding out, that he gave me a fake name because he panicked when we met and he never thought he could "fall in love with another man" and didn't believe we'd see each other than more than a few times. I thought to myself "okay, I can sympathize with that as I'm not out myself" and foolishly I forgave him.

We continued dating for a few months and everything was wonderful now that we could discuss the fears of being bisexual in conservative families. We went everywhere together and he met my family. He traveled with me on my work trips, meeting my colleagues, and even bringing his son along twice. I even still have some home videos with him on it around here somewhere. He would even take me on some of his trips to work, where he worked for his "soon-to-be former sister-in-law". We went to gay bars in both Pensacola and Mobile. He showed no signs of being uncomfortable with it and sometimes would tell me he went alone when I was out of town (something a friend later confirmed).

Unlike your experience, he was adamant that we be exclusive and not see anyone else. It was great for a while. We even went apartment hunting together. Hell, we even applied for one apartment together, but we were too late and lost it. Eventually, I started hearing from trustworthy friends that he was hitting them up on AOLM4M chat rooms. I later found out he slept with a few people I knew (wasn't particularly close with them and they didn't know we were supposedly exclusive). More to this part that I'll hold back on for now.

At one point he invited me to his new home on the north side of Mobile in Saraland or Citronelle (I can't remember the name, exactly), for the weekend. We had a great first 24 hours with talking and him apologizing for being a schmuck. He starts talking about plans for a week long trip together and that he'll call and book it tomorrow. Sounds good to me. Later, I'm stepping out of the shower when he comes running into the bathroom and telling me I have to hide in the closet (no pun intended). He shoves me in the closet and I'm thinking someone is breaking into the house. After what felt like an hour (probably closer to 15 minutes), I hear him walk into the bedroom and then hear a woman's voice. It becomes clear that it's his "soon-to-be ex-wife" he told me about. I probably should have burst out of the closet right then and asked what the heck was going on, but I didn't. Instead, he comes in a few minutes later and pulls me out, hands me some of my stuff and shoves me out the door while saying he's so sorry and can't explain right now but that I have to get out immediately and he'll call me to explain tomorrow. So, there I am, standing on the front porch in nothing but a towel trying to figure out what circus I've joined. I went home and then he called me just after midnight, but I didn't answer. I didn't answer for another week.

After a week I finally agreed to meet him and hear what his ridiculous excuse was this time. I'd already made up my mind that I was done with the relationship. Here was his chance to come clean about whatever else he hadn't told me. But you know what he says? He says his wife needs to move in for a few months while she looks for a place to live. She's decided to move closer to him and her sister so that she and the baby aren't so far away from family. She only needs to live there temporarily and he swears it's nothing more. I told him "Great. I totally understand that. You can call me when she's moved out and then we can see about meeting up again and talking about having an honest relationship." He didn't take this so well. He began showing up at my work, at my apartment, at my mom's house, at any place he knew I'd be hanging out at. After maybe two months of doing that, he moved on to showing up at bars I routinely went to with friends with a new guy each time. He'd be sucking face with them right in front of me in what I could only assume was a tacky attempt to make me jealous. It didn't work.

Months go by and somehow he hears about a family tragedy. He calls me to check on me and says he misses being friends with me and would like to continue being just friends if I feel the same. I gave in and we'd hang out for a bit and do lunch, dinner, etc. Nothing else. Although he makes a move one day and I reject him. This immediately pisses him off and he goes right back to his old ways.

Sometime a few weeks later, he calls and I'm extremely upset after getting some bad news. I tell him I was just diagnosed with a type of cancer and it's rather advanced. He tells me it must be karma. I hang up and block him from everything. I moved out of state a month later and don't hear nor see him for over 2 years.

Fast forward to 2005 and hell if I don't end up on the same flight as him. We ended up talking in the airport. It eventually sparked a different friendship between us, where I was obviously very skeptical of everything he said. And we would get together for lunch maybe twice a year for the next 15+ years. The last time I saw him was around 2021 at the airport again. He was with his family, so I kept my distance and only spoke to him when he followed me to the bathroom and we spoke briefly.

So, there's my story on Mr. Terry Glenn Barclay. I've left out quite a few things that don't need to be shared with everyone, but if you or anyone else needs to talk, I'm here. And again, I'm sorry he hurt you and did this to you and so many others. He was quite the manipulator and gaslighter. Quite the actor. I have no doubt he was a great person to many people in his life. He was probably a great dad in many ways. But he had many other sides to him that he went to great lengths to cover up. Chalk up another one for the white, conservative, christian men that only know how to be total hypocrites.

[TankHill]

Geez. I couldn't read what I was writing because of the tiny window, so I apologize for the many typos.
Also, you may want to talk to a guy named Rick. He was still very close to him at the time of his death. He has more insane pieces to the puzzle surrounding his death.

[TankHill]

They really made him out as some kind of saviour here. I'm pretty sure they know what was going on because it smacks of overcompensating. I mean, I feel horrible for his family, but he obviously had more to him than being some God fearing Saint that showered his family with candy and flowers.

He obviously wasn't that great of a person to go around using and abusing others to satisfy his own needs. His poor wife and Son were used as a cover and the people he was having relations with were only there for his own entertainment and satisfaction. It's one thing to have a lover on the side because you're closeted due to society being cruel. It's another to have elaborate covers and multiple lovers and lying to everyone.

Yes, exactly. All of this. And I feel so horrible for his wife and son. They didn't sign up for any of this. And from the things he told me about his wife, she wasn't a saint either, but she didn't deserve this kind of treatment at all. In fact, she was behind me in line at the grocery store once and we actually ended up having a very brief conversation. I was of course terrified when I realized who she was. As strange as it sounds, I wish I could give her a hug. Not that she'd want one from me. From those that are close to her, it sounds as if she would blame any of his victims rather than also feeling sorry for them and seeing what misery her husband put them through.

[Boston Babe 73]

Geez. I couldn't read what I was writing because of the tiny window, so I apologize for the many typos.
Also, you may want to talk to a guy named Rick. He was still very close to him at the time of his death. He has more insane pieces to the puzzle surrounding his death.

Thank you for sharing your story. The relationship sounds highly abusive and I'm sorry you went through that, by I'm happy that you survived it.

I hope that knowing that you aren't alone in ask of this helps

[TankHill]

Thank you for sharing your story. The relationship sounds highly abusive and I'm sorry you went through that, by I'm happy that you survived it.

I hope that knowing that you aren't alone in ask of this helps

Thank you. I know there are so many others out there. So many. My therapist kept telling me to write a book about it when I started telling her 20 years ago. I wonder what that same therapist would say now.

And funny that someone mentioned the news mistakenly saying he was 57. I'm sure he was rolling over in his grave about that since he claimed to be so much younger. Even claiming to be late 30's in his last few years.

[Boston Babe 73]

Thank you. I know there are so many others out there. So many. My therapist kept telling me to write a book about it when I started telling her 20 years ago. I wonder what that same therapist would say now.

And funny that someone mentioned the news mistakenly saying he was 57. I'm sure he was rolling over in his grave about that since he claimed to be so much younger. Even claiming to be late 30's in his last few years.

It's really sad what he did to so many people. I feel bad for his family as well. I'm sure that they knew towards the end what he was doing even if they didn't know to what extent or any of the details and that must hurt a lot. You're all victims in this scenario and that sucks. He took the easy way out.

We're here for you if you ever need to vent. Our PMs are always open if need be.

That goes for any other victims that may be reading this and don't want to post as well.

This dude obviously had huge issues and under any other circumstances I'd feel bad for him, but it's glaringly obvious that he knew what he was doing and knowingly played with people's emotions and was even physical at times. Not cool.

[SeanF]

Hi Sean. I sent you a PM last week, but if you're anything like me, you rarely check this site or even know when you have a message.

I'm so sorry for what this man put you through and what you must be feeling now that he's dead with all this new information.

Here's my story (it's a long one): I first met him when he was in transition from moving from the Dallas area to Alabama in late May of 2001. He worked out at my tiny gym and that's how we first met in person. However, (((Messaged shortened for quoted reply)))

So, there's my story on Mr. Terry Glenn Barclay. I've left out quite a few things that don't need to be shared with everyone, but if you or anyone else needs to talk, I'm here. And again, I'm sorry he hurt you and did this to you and so many others. He was quite the manipulator and gaslighter. Quite the actor. I have no doubt he was a great person to many people in his life. He was probably a great dad in many ways. But he had many other sides to him that he went to great lengths to cover up. Chalk up another one for the white, conservative, christian men that only know how to be total hypocrites.

Hi Tank. Thank you for sharing. I read your story and could only cry because it all sounds so familiar. I'll write more when I have time.
But that last part I have to agree with. Even though I'm a conservative white man myself. I can't lie that it's spot on.

[Bewitchingstorm]

Sean and Tank, I am so sorry for how you were treated by him. He clearly was living a huge, massive lie and you two were victims of his. As Boston said, please let us know if you ever need to talk/vent. We are here for you both.

[Nic B]

Tank: thank you for being so open with your story. I'm sorry you went through that but I am sure it has made you a stronger person in some ways.