Dumb things that annoy you.

[angelaiscaustic]

I get that, but how do you get to that point?

It's like when that guy found you at work, Angela. You didn't think it was cute,you fucking ran like hell. Why do some women ignore warning signs is what I don't get.

All the time I make jokes about never being with a crazy chick, but that's because my entire life when I saw warning signs I ran like hell (or made sure the bitch didn't even know my real name).

I guess you have to start with someone that has zero self-esteem to begin with. So tel me, where do you find these women?

OH MY GOOOOOD. That guy. What a creep.

[Ron_NYC]

OH MY GOOOOOD. That guy. What a creep.

See what I mean?

But if people didn't make piss poor decisions, there wouldn't be an MDS.

[Creature Feature]

See what I mean?

But if people didn't make piss poor decisions, there wouldn't be an MDS.

And I wouldn't have shit to complain about. So boring

[emmieslost]

I just don't know how it gets to that point. 3 and 4 times??
Any woman I have dealt with, platonically or "romantically," were not the kind to take shorts. They would have set this dude on fire in his fucking sleep if he even thought about hitting them nevermind actually carrying it out. Like how they say "If you dream about hitting me you better wake up an apologize." They're on that shit. So I can't imagine being around it.

I didn't grow up with it in my house, and if anyone's mom (or dad) was getting their ass kicked it certainly wasn't public knowledge.

It must be frustrating as fucking hell when someone won't leave.

it is frustrating as hell. i miss my friend all the time. i saw her at chadillac's funeral and we embraced for a long time but didn't really speak. it broke my heart.

zee and ang know their shit. it doesn't start with physical abuse. it starts with them controlling you in other ways. they remove you from your support system, they cut you down and make you feel like trash, they manipulate the shit outta you after you already trust and respect them.

if anyone ever did that shit to me i would sure as hell start them on fire, but my own life experiences put me in a position to sniff out abusers before anyone could ever let that on. i know to trust my gut. i see the red flags. i probably don't call 'em all right every time but honey, 'self preservation is a full time occupation.'

[Ron_NYC]

it is frustrating as hell. i miss my friend all the time. i saw her at chadillac's funeral and we embraced for a long time but didn't really speak. it broke my heart.

zee and ang know their shit. it doesn't start with physical abuse. it starts with them controlling you in other ways. they remove you from your support system, they cut you down and make you feel like trash, they manipulate the shit outta you after you already trust and respect them.

if anyone ever did that shit to me i would sure as hell start them on fire, but my own life experiences put me in a position to sniff out abusers before anyone could ever let that on. i know to trust my gut. i see the red flags. i probably don't call 'em all right every time but honey, 'self preservation is a full time occupation.'

That sounds familiar actually.

And YES! It should be a full time occupation! Some people don't seem to see it that way though.

[puzzld]

My friends little sister "Kathy" married a really nice guy. We'll call him "Billy." Billy was great until one night he came home drunk and knocked Kathy around for a while before passing out. When he woke up K had soaked his clothing with lighter fluid, tied him to the bed and was holding a gun on him. She explained that she loved him, but... the next time he hit her, he'd better kill her cause she'd kill him before she'd let him treat her like a punching bag again. She left then and sent her brothers over to untie him a few hours later.

They're still married 20 years later, but Billy doesn't drink much these days, and when he does, he's smart enough not to come home.

Sadly, most women who end up trapped don't fight back, or wait way to long to leave.

[Ron_NYC]

See? Not so hard.

[emmieslost]

My friends little sister "Kathy" married a really nice guy. We'll call him "Billy." Billy was great until one night he came home drunk and knocked Kathy around for a while before passing out. When he woke up K had soaked his clothing with lighter fluid, tied him to the bed and was holding a gun on him. She explained that she loved him, but... the next time he hit her, he'd better kill her cause she'd kill him before she'd let him treat her like a punching bag again. She left then and sent her brothers over to untie him a few hours later.

They're still married 20 years later, but Billy doesn't drink much these days, and when he does, he's smart enough not to come home.

Sadly, most women who end up trapped don't fight back, or wait way to long to leave.

this story warms my heart. "kathy" rocks.

[whackjob]

yay kathy!

[Monter]

I get that, but how do you get to that point?

It's like when that guy found you at work, Angela. You didn't think it was cute,you fucking ran like hell. Why do some women ignore warning signs is what I don't get.

All the time I make jokes about never being with a crazy chick, but that's because my entire life when I saw warning signs I ran like hell (or made sure the bitch didn't even know my real name).

I guess you have to start with someone that has zero self-esteem to begin with. So tel me, where do you find these women?

You said it once before too and thats exactly what it is for some people - they dont recognize a warning sign when they see them.
For some people their bullshit meter is set so high, because for whatever reason the early warning signs are not warning signs, but "normal"

[Ron_NYC]

You said it once before too and thats exactly what it is for some people - they dont recognize a warning sign when they see them.
For some people their bullshit meter is set so high, because for whatever reason the early warning signs are not warning signs, but "normal"

"It's been 2 dates and he hasn't belittled me once yet. What gives?"

Seriously, where are these women?

[aphaziak]

You have to take into consideration where some people come from, what they have experienced, and the abuse they have put up with in their past - particularly with family. We all have our own ways of dealing with extreme stress and tragedy, and some are obviously emotionally stronger and more capable than others. It's just a sad fact. If you "developed" in an environment where abusive behavior becomes the norm it makes it that much easier (for some) to be susceptible to these types of relationships in your future. It's along the same lines of why some people become addicts and some people would never dream of it.

Also, none of that is an excuse for the behavior or putting up with abuse repeatedly (especially of a physical nature). It's just how it is. Why are there men that feel the need to berate, belittle, and beat on women in the first place?

[Ron_NYC]

You have to take into consideration where some people come from, what they have experienced, and the abuse they have put up with in their past - particularly with family. We all have our own ways of dealing with extreme stress and tragedy, and some are obviously emotionally stronger and more capable than others. It's just a sad fact. If you "developed" in an environment where abusive behavior becomes the norm it makes it that much easier (for some) to be susceptible to these types of relationships in your future. It's along the same lines of why some people become addicts and some people would never dream of it.

Also, none of that is an excuse for the behavior or putting up with abuse repeatedly (especially of a physical nature). It's just how it is. Why are there men that feel the need to berate, belittle, and beat on women in the first place?

Well I figured that's for the same reason that women deal with it: It's what they grew up seeing, and think that's the way things are done.

I just don't understand how these people always seem to find each other. If I were an abuser I'd be even more forever alone than I am now, cause I NEVER meet someone that would tolerate this shit. Or maybe I have and I just dont' know it, cause the entire concept is so foreign to me. I really need to read into it some more cause I need to understand this.

[Key West Digger]

You have to take into consideration where some people come from, what they have experienced, and the abuse they have put up with in their past - particularly with family. We all have our own ways of dealing with extreme stress and tragedy, and some are obviously emotionally stronger and more capable than others. It's just a sad fact. If you "developed" in an environment where abusive behavior becomes the norm it makes it that much easier (for some) to be susceptible to these types of relationships in your future. It's along the same lines of why some people become addicts and some people would never dream of it.

Also, none of that is an excuse for the behavior or putting up with abuse repeatedly (especially of a physical nature). It's just how it is. Why are there men that feel the need to berate, belittle, and beat on women in the first place?

The women beater's defense - I was abused as a child. What they need is a good ass whipping. Usually I'm not vocal, but this strikes a raw nerve. The same with child abusers. I needed to get that off my chest - thank you.

[Feetprints]

I guess you have to start with someone that has zero self-esteem to begin with. So tel me, where do you find these women?

Hi, Ron.

[krazegirl]

Why do people care if you dont want to go out? I get that we are good friends but we are going out next weekend. UGH! I have a kid and dont need to go clubbing every fucking weekend.

[Ron_NYC]

Hi, Ron.

Hai!

Why do people care if you dont want to go out? I get that we are good friends but we are going out next weekend. UGH! I have a kid and dont need to go clubbing every fucking weekend.

Lucky.

[bowieluva]

The trick is to really leave and not go back. Sadly, a lot of people who get involved with abusive men or women don't secretly believe they can do better or will find someone who will love them that much again. Because there's this fucked up thing that says the angrier you make someone, the more they must care. They don't realize that person would have the same relationship with any woman.

[jessielee]

Surgery in 6 hours. I cant sleep. Im nervous.

[bowieluva]

Surgery in 6 hours. I cant sleep. Im nervous.

Remind me. What are you getting done?

[jessielee]

kidney stone removal. in and out, no big. But Ive never had surgery before, so Im kinda butterfly-ie

[Feetprints]

kidney stone removal. in and out, no big. But Ive never had surgery before, so Im kinda butterfly-ie

You will feel SO MUCH BETTER within hours of coming out of surgery. GL :)

[jessielee]

You will feel SO MUCH BETTER within hours of coming out of surgery. GL :)

Thanks. I know it. I cant wait for it to be over. 12 paid days off work aint bad either. I just dont know what in the hell Im gong to do. Im guessing lots of netflix and video games.

[bowieluva]

Thanks. I know it. I cant wait for it to be over. 12 paid days off work aint bad either. I just dont know what in the hell Im gong to do. Im guessing lots of netflix and video games.

It'll be like you're an unemployed 27-year old man without any of the stress of finding a girlfriend or moving out of mom's!

[HyperU2]

Better hope MDS stays around for your time off. Are they cutting or zapping?