I don't think it's harsh, knowing what you know about her. I felt a little bad about what I posted earlier because I was speculating based on my observations of her (the mom's) behavior, but I don't know her and thought maybe I was completely off base. Sounds like I wasn't though.
That's terrible.
"...Jeffrey Dahmer... actually confessed and accepted his punishment. Had real remorse for the sick things he did. It's pretty bad when Jeffrey Dahmer is a better person than you are." ~Justice11 (re: Jodi Arias)
Thanks Boston Babe. There's always the guilt feeling I felt heavily early on and I still feel it now. I should have called her instead of txting her when I haven't heard from her in a while, and especially when she wasn't feeling good. It's something I learned. Nothing is better than to speak in a tone of voice. I regret it so much. But many have said there was nothing I could do and it was only a matter of time.
Thanks a lot Jumaki. I plan on staying here as there's also a lot of great people that needs support, just as I have gotten from them. I found this place by googling her name and was very surprised someone was talking about her.
I agree and you both bought up a very good point! She was half Persian and half Japanese. Funny though, because the month before her passing she always bring up whether I believed in reincarnation. She mentions that maybe we were reincarnated because we had so much in common in the weirdest things. I sometimes wonder if that was her exit from her depression. Regardless, I hope she rests in peace now.
Trust me Stay Strong, the guilt feelings are normal but not realistic. ALL of us that have lost someone close to us to suicide feel those feelings but the fact of the matter is that once the decision has been made by the person considering it, there's little anyone can say or do that will change it. Please don't ever blame yourself. I guarantee that's the last thing that Rose would want. You were probably one of her only bright spots in her life if what you say is true about her home situation. Please take comfort in knowing that you were truly there for her and if you need to talk, either vent here or seek some kind of counseling. It could do you a world of good just to talk it out and get some outside point of view. You done good
Uh... If she actually did cut her hair right before she died, then how did she have long hair in the videos? Mom put a wig on her?
I think it was mentioned somewhere is here that she got hair extensions.
Rose's story hurts my heart. RIP Rose.
You were good to her, StayStrong, from what we know... Thank you for being a friend.
I hope that when the world comes to an end, I can breathe a sigh of relief, because there will be so much to look forward to. - Donnie Darko
That is so interesting, StayStrong. I know you mentioned previously that Rose was an old soul and I think this really demonstrates that. What a beautiful and loving friend you were and still are to her. I find it wonderful how you want to ensure everyone knows a bit more about her and what she was going through. RIP Rose...you were very much loved.I agree and you both bought up a very good point! She was half Persian and half Japanese. Funny though, because the month before her passing she always bring up whether I believed in reincarnation. She mentions that maybe we were reincarnated because we had so much in common in the weirdest things. I sometimes wonder if that was her exit from her depression. Regardless, I hope she rests in peace now.
Last edited by nestlequikie; 08-25-2015 at 07:54 AM. Reason: Fixed quote tag
StayStrong and Thong Nguyen, I am so sorry for your loss. StayStrong I appreciate your telling us more about her.
This story really hurts my heart. She was so young.
This might sound really cynical but I feel like so many times when someone dies there's always "that person" who almost seems to... enjoy?... the attention and ceremony following the death of a loved one. I have no idea if that makes any sense typed out, but the first thing that comes to mind is the very-much estranged ex-wife of a relative of mine who shot himself. They had been divorced for something like 15 years and there was no love lost between them; things were really ugly at one point and then there was just no relationship at all. But at the visitation, funeral, and burial his ex was front and center crying, fainting, etc. It was hard to concentrate on the actual ceremony, she was so distraught. Afterward she would regularly update her FB profile with "RIP" glittery animated stickers with his picture on them, or some long open letter to him... I dunno.
A good point made in this thread is that we shouldn't judge someone else's reaction to death and I know I'm slightly doing that here. But there's no denying Rose's mother wants everyone (literally, the public) to know she was right in the middle of it after Rose's death, picking out her clothes, pushing the button, etc.
You know some of you people are posting your childish opinions. Rose was a beautiful child and loved dearly. Her mother is a very loving person who was completely destroyed by Rose's death. He mother never victimized her and for individuals who don't even know them to be making these judgments and posting on a forum is just disgraceful!! If you have something positive to add or you want to share your grief that's fine, but stopping judging people you know nothing about!! Being a parent is difficult, being the parent of a teenager is trying, being the parent of a suicide is hell on earth!
Hey Stay Strong... I would love for you to contact me if you really knew Rose.... This whole this sound like made up crap. I know Sarah very well and this is nothing like her. She doesn't even drink!!
I would say for anyone unless you live in a home day in and day out. You really can not assume the abuse did or did not happen. People chose to take their own lives due to they feel there is no other way. I would feel pretty confident saying something was certainly going on in this beautiful girls life, that made her feel there was no other way out, and no way to fix it. I did not know either mother or Rose. But for sure something lead her to her decision. As for greaving, people do deal with loss very differently that is for sure. But there is also sometimes the element of overwhelming guilt along with the grief. This I have seen with the Suicide of my best friend, then watching the guilt of her mother. And yes it was guilt that way over took the grief. Her mother posting the videos to me screams guilt. I watched them and just saw guilt. Before I ever read a post about abuse. The fact she tells people she died of heart attack also says guilt to me. You would donate part of her to make a difference, but you won't admit suicide to make a difference. Just my thought
I have all the proof you can realistically ask for. I have her screens of her and her mother texting and the verbal abuse her mother said to her, including when her mother kicked her out of the house and basically will not help her along the way. This is such a deep and sad issue that not many people know about, but I was close enough to her for her to share towards the last day of her life. The only thing I cannot prove well is her mother punching her. The only proof I have of that is when I saw it and I went home and texted her if she was okay and talked about it through text.
There are currently 1 users browsing this thread. (0 members and 1 guests)