Suicide Prevention / Suicide Survivors Thread

[Lynda Stiff]

You don't live the life after you lose the person you love and watch them be ridiculed for something that never happened. Everyone seems to think these peoples deaths are funny. Well, everyone of these people has a mother. And this is just one of the many websites that makes it harder and harder everyday for my mom to go on. She misses her son and all we find is hate and ridicule on the internet. He wasn't even on the tracks. But sites like this take one story and run with it. While they were so busy belittling my brother there was a retraction posted. But it's just more fun to believe the first story huh?

[MorbidCuriousity]

[quote author=Lynda Stiff link=topic=6444.msg713867#msg713867 date=1201707540]
You don't live the life after you lose the person you love and watch them be ridiculed for something that never happened. Everyone seems to think these peoples deaths are funny. Well, everyone of these people has a mother. And this is just one of the many websites that makes it harder and harder everyday for my mom to go on. She misses her son and all we find is hate and ridicule on the internet. He wasn't even on the tracks. But sites like this take one story and run with it. While they were so busy belittling my brother there was a retraction posted. But it's just more fun to believe the first story huh?
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I can't think of one person here who thinks suicide is funny, and I think even the people that make snarky comments are using some strange coping mechanism.

Who is your friend?

[Karalicious]

It's her brother Patrick Stiff. Again...like I said in his thread...if there are a bunch of websites that are bothering your family...you need to stop going to them. It's like saying...hitting myself in the head with this hammer really hurts....it's simple enough as STOPPING. I'm really sorry for your loss. But things like the Darwins and this website aren't going to go away. And sites are going to get things wrong. You can't live your lives based on what anonymous people say.  :|

[stephoney]

[quote author=Karalicious link=topic=6444.msg713891#msg713891 date=1201709143]
It's her brother Patrick Stiff. Again...like I said in his thread...if there are a bunch of websites that are bothering your family...you need to stop going to them. It's like saying...hitting myself in the head with this hammer really hurts....it's simple enough as STOPPING. I'm really sorry for your loss. But things like the Darwins and this website aren't going to go away. And sites are going to get things wrong. You can't live your lives based on what anonymous people say.  :|
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And to be fair, after his sister came here and explained what she believes happened, everyone welcomed her and said they were sorry for her loss. I didn't see one comment after her arrival that suggests that people were making fun of him or being anything but nice to her.

[Karalicious]

[quote author=stephak link=topic=6444.msg713901#msg713901 date=1201709544]
And to be fair, after his sister came here and explained what she believes happened, everyone welcomed her and said they were sorry for her loss. I didn't see one comment after her arrival that suggests that people were making fun of him or being anything but nice to her.
[/quote] This is true. I really think she is just really upset and angry and doesn't know who to place the responsibility of her pain on...websites like Darwin and all will most likely just ignore her email as one of 1000s...whereas we will reply.

I'm really sorry your family is in pain, Lynda. Really.

[Lynda Stiff]

I knew no one would listen to me if I was rude. But I do not think that my brother should be on this site. My mother is deeply upset by everything that is said on the internet. And honestly the hurtful comments that I read on here before I told you the story slightly override the sorry's. I do appreciate it but everyone making my brother into just a stupid boy that killed himself is killing my mother. And no Darwin doesn't respond. Apparently he can talk about whoever he wants but can't take it when someone wants to respond. My mother is ready to kill herself over these disgusting articles and everyone thinks it's funny or he was just some guy. This is my life my father is already gone. I only have my mother now and since my brother died she's not really here anymore. That's why I kind it odd that one of these sites has a suicide prevention.

[MorbidCuriousity]

[quote author=Lynda Stiff link=topic=6444.msg713945#msg713945 date=1201711360]
I knew no one would listen to me if I was rude. But I do not think that my brother should be on this site. My mother is deeply upset by everything that is said on the internet. And honestly the hurtful comments that I read on here before I told you the story slightly override the sorry's. I do appreciate it but everyone making my brother into just a stupid boy that killed himself is killing my mother. And no Darwin doesn't respond. Apparently he can talk about whoever he wants but can't take it when someone wants to respond. My mother is ready to kill herself over these disgusting articles and everyone thinks it's funny or he was just some guy. This is my life my father is already gone. I only have my mother now and since my brother died she's not really here anymore. That's why I kind it odd that one of these sites has a suicide prevention.
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Sweetie your mom needs some counseling right away! Can you get her to see someone? Sounds like she is at a critical point.

And normally I don't tell people to log off, but she seriously does need to stop checking this site over and over if it's that bad. The people here are actually very kind by and large.

[Karalicious]

[quote author=Lynda Stiff link=topic=6444.msg713945#msg713945 date=1201711360]
I knew no one would listen to me if I was rude. But I do not think that my brother should be on this site. My mother is deeply upset by everything that is said on the internet. And honestly the hurtful comments that I read on here before I told you the story slightly override the sorry's. I do appreciate it but everyone making my brother into just a stupid boy that killed himself is killing my mother. And no Darwin doesn't respond. Apparently he can talk about whoever he wants but can't take it when someone wants to respond. My mother is ready to kill herself over these disgusting articles and everyone thinks it's funny or he was just some guy. This is my life my father is already gone. I only have my mother now and since my brother died she's not really here anymore. That's why I kind it odd that one of these sites has a suicide prevention.
[/quote] The hurtful comments suck. But if you want your brother to be taken off of here, send a polite email to mydeathspace@gmail.com and tell them that you are his sister, and more than likely, it will be removed.

[MorbidCuriousity]

The thread has been removed by Olivia. Hope that helps Lynda.

[Lynda Stiff]

Thankyou! :)

[Karalicious]

[quote author=Lynda Stiff link=topic=6444.msg713999#msg713999 date=1201713348]
Thankyou! :)
[/quote] I'm glad it's been removed. I hope you and your mother find some peace.

[love4life]

I think its great there is a prevention area on here. But what about a forum for survivors. I use to think that suicide was just people giving up until I lost 2 people who I loved to suicide. One was my ex-husbands father. and the other was my fiance who was dying from cancer. I am trying learn to cope but it is incomprehensible to me. My sweetie promised me he wouldn't and that he would try the Chemo I even told him I'd sit there and hold his hand. I think he didn't want my daughter and my sons (not his) to watch him die. I  found out I was pregnant 3 days after we started dating and he promised he would adopt my daughter and love her and always be there. 

[vaga]

[quote author=love4life link=topic=6444. msg721669#msg721669 date=1202279092]
I think its great there is a prevention area on here. But what about a forum for survivors. I use to think that suicide was just people giving up until I lost 2 people who I loved to suicide. One was my ex-husbands father. and the other was my fiance who was dying from cancer. I am trying learn to cope but it is incomprehensible to me. My sweetie promised me he wouldn't and that he would try the Chemo I even told him I'd sit there and hold his hand. I think he didn't want my daughter and my sons (not his) to watch him die. I  found out I was pregnant 3 days after we started dating and he promised he would adopt my daughter and love her and always be there. 
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I'm so sorry for your lost.

[MorbidCuriousity]

[quote author=love4life link=topic=6444.msg721669#msg721669 date=1202279092]
I think its great there is a prevention area on here. But what about a forum for survivors. I use to think that suicide was just people giving up until I lost 2 people who I loved to suicide. One was my ex-husbands father. and the other was my fiance who was dying from cancer. I am trying learn to cope but it is incomprehensible to me. My sweetie promised me he wouldn't and that he would try the Chemo I even told him I'd sit there and hold his hand. I think he didn't want my daughter and my sons (not his) to watch him die. I  found out I was pregnant 3 days after we started dating and he promised he would adopt my daughter and love her and always be there. 
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I will start one here and sticky it so that it stays on top.

[MorbidCuriousity]

We've had a request for a thread that loved ones of those who committed suicide can talk about their feelings. Feel free to discuss that here.

[love4life]

Do you know what the worst part of suicide is? Trying to explain to a 7 year old why grandpa is gone, why a perfectly healthy mad he talked to the day before is gone and why he won't see him this summer. The being unsure what to say when he asks how he died. I told my son grandpa was in heaven and my son asked me if he could die to so h could b with his grandpa and Danny (my fiance). That night I got the call from my xhusband and we together told our son was the worst and when my ex heard his son say can i die to he started to cry even harder. Suicide ruins so many lives. My ex said it best "It just take thier pain and spreads it out to everyone who loved them.

[love4life]

I think that was me... :-)...

I lost my fiance to suicide I met him in February and we had a perfect relationship. He loved me we were gonna get married ad live his remain live together. Shortly after we started dating I found out I was pregnant with my x-boyfriends child and Danny said thats ok he would raise her as his own. He would talk o my belly and rub it.

I knew when we got together he had cancer and I loved him anyway. better to have loved and lost then ever to have loved before. On July 6th he committed suicide I was 4 1/2 months pregnant and driving when his mother called me and told me he was gone. Me not catching it said where did he go? She said no hon Danny killed himself, I couldn't re act. I just said oh ok. I was driving I didn't want to loose control. The she asked me to call his brother.
I got to my sisters house and i lost it. I was punching the steering wheel, punching my windows and door and just screaming bloody murder. My brother in law had to grab my arm pull me out of the car and hold me until i would calm down and they had no idea what was wrong with me. finally i fell to the ground called his brother and while I was telling him my sister listened. I got off the phone and my sister just hugged me. I wanted to die, but knew Danny cared about my daughter and would be pissed if I let something I could control happen to her. My daughter saved my life and she wasn't even born yet.

[love4life]

I also lost my father in law about two months prior to Danny. But I have typed enough for today. Hope my post wasn't to long.

[brie]

[quote author=love4life link=topic=12478.msg722385#msg722385 date=1202333518]
I also lost my father in law about two months prior to Danny. But I have typed enough for today. Hope my post wasn't to long.
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Is that Danny's father?
And what kind of cancer did he have?
Was he suffering from depression?
Did yall know he was suicidal at all?
sorry for all the questions! just curious

[Mr. Formaldehyde]

I haven't had a "loved one" commit suicide, but I have had a high school friend who did so this past summer. 

[love4life]

[quote author=brie star link=topic=12478.msg722781#msg722781 date=1202360331]
Is that Danny's father?
And what kind of cancer did he have?
Was he suffering from depression?
Did yall know he was suicidal at all?
sorry for all the questions! just curious
[/quote]

No it wasn't Danny's father it was my ex-husbands father. He seemed happy, he drank occasionally and all but he was a very sweet and loving man. He was perfectly health and this was totally unexpected. His wife went to bed at 930, she woke up at 12 to find a note and my father in law lay-ed out in the back yard.

[merdeath]

Wow.  This is a great idea.  Its sad but at the same time its interesting to hear your story.  Thanks for sharing :)

[aquatwins]

[youtube=425,350]4v2FtJIbUPk[/youtube]
Not even time
Can undo what's been done
I'm tired of fighting
Can you tell me who won
The world is Changing
So why do I feel the same
I'm left with So much to say

And it Too late to Say Goodbye
Too Late
It's Too Late to Say Goodbye
Too Late

When everyone else moved on
I was still hurting
They say be strong,
But it's not working
Some nights I, can't breath I
I feel the walls are caving In
In one short moment, I lost everything
Oh I wish I could have just a little more time

It's too late to say Goodbye
It's too late
It's too late to say Goodbye
It's too late

(Adlibs)
It's too late to say goodbye
To a mother who won't see her son again
It's too late to say goodbye
To the woman who lost her husband and best friend
It's too late to say goodbye
To a child whose daddy won't make it home
It's too late to say goodbye
It's too late, when your loved one is gone

[love4life]

that is a beautiful song.

[love4life]

Any suggestions on how to survive today? Loneliest Valentines Day ever.