I just wanted to add my opinion on this. People often call suicide selfish, and I can understand how they feel this way, but I see it differently. If you expect somebody who does not want to wake up every morning to keep on living to spare their loved ones grief, is that not selfish of you? People call suicide a "permanent solution to a temporary problem", but what if there are issues that won't go away? What if somebody was born with a birth defect or maimed in some sort of accident? What if the quality of one's life is so diminished that there is no chance of them ever feeling content again?
There are moments that you never forget, memories so intense that you can remember the smell of the air, the deepest subconcious feelings you were having... What if you are so far gone that you are certain you will never make these sorts of memories again? I am in no way telling every depressed person on Earth to kill themselves, but I know the pain that they feel, and I understand where they are coming from. I never feel bad when somebody kills themself, as bad is at may sound, their problems are gone. I sincerely hope that were I to ever end my life, people would understand and not detest me for it.
There is more to suicide than a lot of people think. It usually isn't an impulsive decision. You hear cases of people shooting themselves on the spot after getting dumped by their significant others or offing themselves in a spectacular fashion, but the news is built on sensationalism. Suicide is an intimate thing, it can be seen as almost symbolic rather than a true act, the people are already "dead", they are simply ending their physical existence. I understand that I'm young and still have a lot to learn in the world, and I apologize if I'm coming off as pseudo-intellectual, but I've been looking at this thread for a long time contemplating whether or not to add my opinion.
To anybody here that may be contemplating suicide: Go into it knowing that you WILL be hurting people whether or not that is your intention. You will be relieving yourself of your pain, but your loved ones will have to go on knowing that you took your own life and they couldn't stop you. Nobody knows what goes on in your mind, so nobody can rightfully pass judgement on your decision. Barring religious beliefs, you only live one time, so I urge you to think long and hard if you are truly sure that you want to end your life. You may feel constant pain and dread, but are you really going to be okay with it? Are you willing to give up seeing insects crawling outdoors, the feeling of air on your skin, the glow of car lights in the distance? When you are gone, each and every thing that you have ever experienced goes with you*, and while you are ending your suffering, you are also voiding the good times that you had. Your first breath... your first steps... everything is over. If you are really certain that this is what you want, I hope that it is a minor comfort knowing that I understand.
*Going strictly by science, disregarding any religious beliefs
This being said, in my lifetime I have never experienced the loss of a loved one due to suicide, but my mother has and it is still very hard on her every day.
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Originally Posted by RemmyRuger
I am so sorry for your loss. Big, BIG hugs your way.
