wut? Did she not understand the first time you said you weren't pregnant?
Some girl asked me when I was out on a first date once. I was too embarrassed to go out with the guy again. Now, I'd be like, "It's due in June, and it's a little burrito," but I was so dev.
Originally Posted by bowieluva
Man, I was pretty sure my dermotologist was preggers but didn't want to be rude so I waited for her to mention it. I would never say that because I know how awkward it is.
There wasn't much going on behind the eyes if ya know what I mean. But I totally have a pooch so I get why people wonderI also have stomach issues so I get super bloated. It's awful and painful and I look 5 months pregnant.
Suzanne Knight (21) brutally raped and devoured 3 toddlers while on a meth binge before hanging herself Marky69: If those toddlers didnt want to be eaten then they shouldnt of looked so god damned delicious. RIP Suzanne
I have the same problems. Midsection weight gain, bloating, and my hands a feet swell, too. I look like a pear on toothpicks!There wasn't much going on behind the eyes if ya know what I mean. But I totally have a pooch so I get why people wonder
How sad :tear: One of my friends I met in Texas lost a daughter at 4 days. She knew the baby had a condition and wouldn't make it long, but she carried her to full term. I would have done the same thing, not finding out until late in the pregnancy about the condition. That takes a lot of strength.
My boyfriend's sister knew she had a placenta issue, but they figured she would just deliver with a c-section since it made a vaginal birth impossible (placenta attached to wall, making it so the baby wouldn't come down the birth canal). The baby passed away unexpectedly and she had a c-section to deliver. She had the nursery almost completely done. She knew she was having a girl, a sister for her 1 year old son. So, so sad.
Modest? Titty flashing (other than in New Orleans) issues?
Wait until you have a baby.
Roll your eyes at people with screaming newborns in Target and Wal-Mart?
Wait until you have a baby.
Judge anyone about their child-rearing methods?
Wait until you have a baby.
Think pacifiers, formula and cereal before 4 months are wrong?
Wait until you have a baby.
Think co-sleeping is creepy and cloth diapers are the worst?
Wait until you have a baby.
As both a mother and a grandmother, I have learned that the way to find the right way for you to parent your child is to wait until you have a baby and figure it out for yourself.
PS: I am not advocating leaving the baby's father out of the equation entirely either. "You" in some cases could and/or should mean BOTH of you.
I hope that when the world comes to an end, I can breathe a sigh of relief, because there will be so much to look forward to. - Donnie Darko
I can advocate that I hate cloth diapers because I used to work in daycare and had to change them
Suzanne Knight (21) brutally raped and devoured 3 toddlers while on a meth binge before hanging herself Marky69: If those toddlers didnt want to be eaten then they shouldnt of looked so god damned delicious. RIP Suzanne
My mom thought co-sleeping and cloth diapers were creepy.
Co-sleeping was something we didnt really want but because of the situation caring for grandma, we shared a room with Dallas and so he always slept between us. It was hard to deal with at times.
Cloth diapers are weird to me, only because I think it would have been a lot more work for me when I was already juggling kids. I think my mom had me in them when I was younger but i personally don't find the idea appealing for me as a parent.
I plan to be able to afford to be as careless and indifferent to the environment as possible when I have a baby and thus use disposables. THIS ISN'T THE 1800S
my mom said that cloth diapers made me but breakout, so she didn't use them. i assume i was probably allergic to her detergent, which they realized years later. i've never heard anyone else say that about cloth diapers. i like to think that there is a time and place for both. i can only imagine the amount of garbage you create for yourself with disposable.
Cloth is super easy, and cheap. It's also virtually chemical free. Win/win. I've done both, disposables with Millie and cloth with Avi, cloth has been WAY more cost efficient. However, if you don't stay at home, I really don't recommend it.
I don't know if this is 100% right but from what I've seen you post, you parent Avi quite differently to how you started off with Millie? I was just wondering what made you change what you do/how you do things?
Honestly? Having more confidence in myself as a mother. I listened to everything people told me when I had Millie, and it's why I failed at breastfeeding her. It still makes me nauseous when I think about my lack of support and I still remember the day that I officially gave up. I wish I had kept going and persevered. I wish I would have never taken one piece of bad advice. With Avi, there were multiple times where I could have given up but I was determined and I knew that if I kept going, it would be fine. My nipples were raw, blistered, and bleeding for about the first 3 weeks, and I just kept on. If I hadn't had Millie first and experienced the pain of giving up, I probably would have given up then as well. But luckily, I knew all of the boobie traps and ignored the ped when he told me to feed him every 3 hours and not on demand. I ignored my mil when she told me to give him bottles at night. As far as cloth, I already had my routine down as a mother, as far as cleaning and laundry went, I knew another load or two of diapers wouldn't kill me. These choices were daunting when I first had Millie.
As far as cosleeping, I parent as to what each child needed. Millie slept with us for the first month or two, but then happily slept in her mini crib next to us. She slept through the night straight away so she never needed to be parented all night. Avi has always needed a little more, he's very high needs, so I give him what he needs to get through. Cosleeping was an easy adjustment, no regrets.
As far as everything else, it's the same, same positive discipline, same healthy eating, no spanking, etc...
Such a good mama
Yes. The parents who used them in the daycare only did them for a few months with us. It just seemed really inconvenient to bring enough for the day or week, make sure to take them home everyday, bring the container, etc. We had one parent who would get so mad at us because sometimes we had to put the baby in disposables because they didn't bring enough. We were always battling with this guy. He wanted us to do things that we just couldn't do because of licensing.
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Suzanne Knight (21) brutally raped and devoured 3 toddlers while on a meth binge before hanging herself Marky69: If those toddlers didnt want to be eaten then they shouldnt of looked so god damned delicious. RIP Suzanne
I think even when I stayed at home (I only got to stay at home with Dallas) I still wouldnt have done cloth diapers only because im thinking about having to actually clean poo out of them. Im a little naive, ill admit about the cloth diapers because I imagine it to be such a process where I could just instead use disposables and those wonderful wipes.
The worst thing than having to use diapers is hving them in the garbage. I was so thankful that at our first townhouse, there was a dumpster real close so having diapers in the garbage was rare.
I imagine the mommas who use them have simple ways of doing it tho and have it down to a science.
I really don't understand how seeing a boob offends you, as a woman. Especially when it's being used to feed a child, ya know, the actual natural purpose for boobs. Even nip slips don't register as something for me to bat an eye at. Hell, my boob fell out of my bathing suit here in Dubai, but there were a bunch of Europeans around and no one even seemed to notice lol...I laughed and tucked it back in.
My boob fell out of my shirt yesterday and all that happened was the guys at Smart and Final were a lot nicer to me.
I was breastfed until I was three and I slept with my parents until I was four. I actually remember being breastfed. I'm not sure if it screwed me up or made any great difference to my life and our relationship. She wasn't into attachment parenting, she was just a hippie and I guess that kind of relationship felt natural to her. I'm happy she stopped before I started preschool.
I had parents like that at the daycare center when I was a director. Ugh.
I hope that when the world comes to an end, I can breathe a sigh of relief, because there will be so much to look forward to. - Donnie Darko
He wanted us to scrape and rinse the diapers in the changing table sink. He seriously didn't understand that that is unsanitary and a licensing violation. He also told us to change his son less so we didn't use disposables. He would only bring four diapers a day. We were supposed to change them every hour and document it. And he would never take them home! We told him to take them every day and he would leave it for the whole week. The classroom would smell like fetid shit.
I think cloth diapers are awesome for all the reasons Nat said but they are such a pain the ass if you're not home with your kid.
Suzanne Knight (21) brutally raped and devoured 3 toddlers while on a meth binge before hanging herself Marky69: If those toddlers didnt want to be eaten then they shouldnt of looked so god damned delicious. RIP Suzanne
Blergh. I think I just barfed a little. We had to change diapers every hour and the staffer that did the change had to initial the form.
I totally agree. Having 2 babies 13.5 months apart in full-time daycare meant disposables for me on work days. They didn't have the cute covers back then either!!
I tried breastfeeding G and being in a daycare full of crying kids did not work well with my hormones, boobs and work attire. I kept 'letting down' and had to change clothes 8 times per day - I just couldn't keep it up.
I breastfed M for 2-3 days and I got a staph infection in my kidney and the meds to treat it were harmful to babies and passed in breastmilk. I dried up before I was cleared to let her breastfeed again. At least she got the colostrum.
I hope that when the world comes to an end, I can breathe a sigh of relief, because there will be so much to look forward to. - Donnie Darko
oh god! why... am i doing this?
i'm not a mother. although i hope to someday have the opportunity to take that plunge, i don't believe it will ever happen. i have, however, had ample experience with mothers and babies - my little sis was home-birthed, i watched the whole thing go down. i got to clean those awful cloth diapers and flushed my share down the toilet. my mom was hippie -like, pulled it out whenever and wherever she needed to and i have to admit... it always bothered me a little.
what direction am i coming from? don't get me wrong! i like boobs. i have some and they have always been huge so from a very young age, they have always been sexualized for me and i got a whole bunch of unwanted attention because of them. as early as i can remember, boobs have always been something to hide, something to keep secret until the circumstances warrant unwrapping. suddenly getting a glimpse of what to me is the unseen territory is jarring. and yes, i probably stare longer than i should and walk away feeling like a jerk.
it's a given that babies are hungry and should be fed. heaven forbid anyone think i believe new mothers should be inconvenienced when feeding, but in a public setting there are always going to be people who are uncomfortable with it, perhaps people with bigger emotional issues than even i, other parents who aren't yet ready to answer questions about the subject and people who have different beliefs on what is acceptable.
maybe i am naive, but i feel that there are always places to go to minimize exposure to people who are less comfortable with seeing nekkid tat-tas. i always look for places i can hide everywhere i go (because on top of having boobie issues, i also have a bit of social anxiety and have to find safe places to go in public to remember how to breath...). i've found that in every place, there is always a sanctuary.
i'd venture to say one could go into the baby/maternity sections in wal-mart to feed so you are around other mothers who are more empathetic. or you can go into a dressing room. at fast food places, your car is not too far away and in a restaurant you can ask the server if there is a closed section you can use in private. restrooms are another option because many of them have a waiting room attached with comfy couch to sit on. and yes, there is also the option of using formula for outings or pumping before hand.
chances are, mothers do use these options. like i said, i'm not one so i don't know. and the truth is: really, it's not the end of the world or even my day if i do see it. i just wonder if the mothers care at all about how their decision affects others living outside of the 3-foot bubble.
ok, i'm done for.
But why do that when you can say "fuck everyone and their comfort" and do whatever you want?maybe i am naive, but i feel that there are always places to go to minimize exposure to people who are less comfortable with seeing nekkid tat-tas. i always look for places i can hide everywhere i go (because on top of having boobie issues, i also have a bit of social anxiety and have to find safe places to go in public to remember how to breath...). i've found that in every place, there is always a sanctuary.
And then have the audacity to say that they have a problem since you're making them uncomfortable.
The part of your brain that regulates shame and decency gets flushed out with the afterbirth, I swear.
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